Untangling from Cognitive Distortions, Part TWO

Untangling from Cognitive Distortions, Part TWO

Yesterday, I opened the back door to the porch and this guy was RIGHT THERE! With his head in the air. Yikes. I closed the door. QUICKLY.

As I caught my breath, I realized how quickly the thought, "there's a snake on the porch," became a story. For those few moments, that story felt REAL!

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Untangling from Cognitive Distortions, Part ONE

Untangling from Cognitive Distortions, Part ONE

Many if not most therapists, coaches, spiritual directors would disagree on the value of the narrative in helping our clients.

Cognitive distortions may be the clearest view we can get on just how tangled up in a narrative we can all get. For those who journey with some variant of a mood disorder, these distortions can be debilitating.

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Empathy, AAIT & The Imago Dialogue

Empathy, AAIT & The Imago Dialogue

Those of us in long term relationships with a commitment to do what it takes to learn how to love each other know what a high game that is. There’s a lot that gets in the way of that. For therapists, our relationships are a rich playground for expanding our capacity to accept one another.

The imago dialogue is an intentional, refined approach to communicating. With practice, it can become a sweet effortless entry into real connection. 

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Freedom Hidden in Embodiment

Freedom Hidden in Embodiment

Ahbyasa – consistently taking deliberate steps in the direction of your goals.

We are all consistently taking steps. Are these steps in the direction of our goals? All the little steps, all the little habits add up to routines. Do these routines support your goals?

Let’s just look at this professionally. What are your professional goals?

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Boldness

Boldness

Last year was my first year going to Isla Mujeres, Mexico. I was invited to join this group of amazing seasoned psychotherapists from around the world. Mary Goulding (one of my teachers) started this group more than 25 years ago. The warmth and care that has gone into keeping this group going is inspiring. And, it took boldness, as several people told me.

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